Forgiveness Is an Inside Job

Holding on to hurt feelings limits your ability to be present. Move past resentment and anger by learning to forgive yourself first.

• By Carley Hauck
• May 28, 2018
• Well-Being

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Left to their own devices, our inner narratives or 个人故事 can easily lead us down a path of reactivity: we start blaming and shaming, and as a result, we are not able to move forward into compassion, understanding, and forgiveness of ourselves or others. Simply put: when we get stuck in our heads, weaving narratives, even after a simple squabble 在家 or work, it becomes more difficult to recover.

What gets in the way of forgiveness?

为了开始原谅的过程，我们需要以共情和理解来拥抱所有的情绪。这就是为什么我说原谅是一个内在的工作。我们如何能够真正地原谅别人，如果我们不能首先原谅自己呢？我经常与学生和客户分享，我们需要命名和承认自己的情绪以“驯服”它们。给情绪贴上标签的练习有助于在你的情绪和反应之间创造空间，这样你可以选择如何回应当下。当你注意到自己有强烈的情绪时，可以融入这个10分钟的冥想来处理困难的情绪。

处理困难情绪

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